What Readers Are Saying
Just wanted you to know that 8 months after reading your book, I've lost 34 pounds and have been able to replace many negative habits which led to stress eating with many positive ones. Thanks for your help on my journey.
~ Heather Phillips
Meryl Hershey Beck totally hit the nail on the head when she wrote “Stop Eating Your Heart Out”. This is a one of a kind literary treasure because it is much more than a self help book. Anyone; I repeat anyone can and will benefit from the 21-day easy to understand and implement pathway back to balance. It makes no difference where you came from or how far you need to travel to live a happy, healthy existence. This author and publication offer simple direction to get there. “Stop Eating Your Heart Out” is a must read. If not for you, a priceless gift for a loved one who needs guidance to bring them back into the light of happiness and control of their own life.
~ Mega R. Mease, Energy Diagnostic/Empowerment Counselor
I received your book in the mail a few days ago and I am completely in love with it. I have shared everything with my coworker Shelly who is a lot like me. I keep finding myself able to relate to almost every single thing I am reading. I cannot even explain to you how getting your book was meant to be. As I read it, I am sure I will find more and more amazing revelations about myself. 🙂 So, thank you!
~ Desire' Seymour
Enjoying your book tremendously. It came in on Tuesday and I have been parsing its many lessons and savoring its practical wisdom. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Hi, Meryl – I read your book, it's beautiful.
I've been reading your book and am absolutely blown away by the description of your early life struggles. What is especially amazing is that you rose up out of the ashes of your life-long emotional pain to be a joyful person full of light and love. Most people I see in my psychology practice who had early life depression are so set in their depressive thinking that they remain depressed. Brain science tells us that our brain is formed early in life and if there is a depression in childhood, it will be likely to continue throughout life. Yes, neuroplasticiy research shows us otherwise but it takes a great deal of hard work and motivation to change the brain. You did it!
The book leaves me wondering if a second book addressing the way in which you rose from the ashes wouldn't be an appropriate follow-up.
I could relate to your story and am grateful to you for airing it so articulately. It allowed me to reexamine the whole idea of my own emotional eating….
Thanks so much for the gift of the book and the gift of the insight you have given your readers.
I hope this book is hugely successful for your sake but also because it can bring solace to others who have struggled with the issue.
(Five Star Rating System)
Helpful September 26, 2013
By Erin A. Smith
This book is so helpful in figuring out why we have the self destructive behavior of over eating. I am so glad that I bought it
Very Helpful July 16, 2013
The book is providing me extra work outside of counseling sessions and then I can use what I learn to help with my recovery in my counseling sessions.
Very helpful June 23, 2013
Each chapter really challenges you. You start to view how and why you eat very differently. It gets you to the core of why you emotionally overeat and that's something I really needed to face. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who emotionally overeats.
Must Read Book June 21, 2013
I started reading this book and it had my attention right from the beginning. There is something to do for each day and the importance of doing something for that day. Love how it stresses about the food dairy and what triggers off our eating habits. This is a very easy to read book that is designated for anyone with a food problem to be able to read and follow. It is detailed and full of great information. I found it to be a excellent source!
Excellent in-depth help June 19, 2013
By Abbe Forman (Philadelphia, PA, US)
Meryl Beck's book, “Stop Eating Your Heart Out…” is an excellent opportunity to look deep inside yourself to get to the heart of why you (or I) might be eating too much. Beck's book provides insight into emotional overeating and provides practical tools to get a handle on it. If you are ready to do the work necessary to get out from under the burden of emotional overeating, this is the premier book to help you do that. She takes a difficult subject and approaches it with sensitivity, care, and no nonsense direction and advice. Beck provides personal experiences that provide anecdotal breaks from the clinical recommendations making this book exceptionally readable. Highly recommended!
great book May 2, 2013
helped me w/my eating habits. use of a food diary very helpful. still haven't finished whole book yet, but will soon. enjoy reading it.
Not only a slim body, but Sanity and Balance at last! May 1, 2013
Here I am on my first anniversary after doing the program in this book with a 126 pound body and a new attitude toward food. Whew! I could cry just thinking what a relief this is. After 40 years I've finally ditched the diets and deprivation-binge cycle and now just focus on nourishing myself. I'm not perfect– went for the Cheetos instead of a decent meal on a stressful day running around town this week– but the little glitches balance out quickly now. I ended up giving the rest of the bag away, thinking that this was an old habit that I had to have one last unsatisfying fling with, and went back to craving kale salad. Really! I made it through the winter, which is usually my “pack it on” time and am entering summer fitting into my clothes. More importantly, I'm feeling lots of love for my precious body.A couple of things to know: I don't suppose that just reading this book would do much by itself. You have to *do* the exercises. Not necessarily 21 days in a row –that would be ideal, but you can fit them into your actual life, and I admit I only got through #17. But that was good enough to root out enough of my emotional eating issues to make a decision to quit my seasonal dieting and move on to healthy eating that I can enjoy and sustain. As a companion with “Stop Eating Your Heart Out” I would recommend something a book the “Clean” program by Dr. Junger, to get in balance, drop extra weight and make a transition to healthy eating. I used that to take off 15 pounds in a month last summer, and because of the Emotional Eating work I had done it was a remarkably smooth process. I've also found The Gabriel Method book helpful to support weight stabilization through giving our bodies what they need and want. But no matter what other program you use, “Stop Eating Your Heart Out” addresses the deeper emotional work underlying our relationship with food.Bottom line, enjoy this feast of powerful techniques and encouragement and know deep change is possible.
Fantastic! March 30, 2013
I've been looking for you for 20 years. Thank you for being a one-stop resource for all the different help there is out there. If you have an eating disorder, this is the book for you. No foo-foo story. Straight-up help.
A good book (mostly) March 26, 2013
By Gaia.x –
I went through the book and did most of the exercises. I definitely got some insight into my eating habits!
The book is rather systematic, gathering methods from across the field of the self-help psychology. I appreciate both the information presented and the form used. I give one star less than maximum for some of the highly speculative (as opposed to scientific) approaches included in the book.I would surely recommend the book to everyone whose relationship with food is complicated. If taken with a pinch at some points, it can be very helpful!
Emotional Eaters Bible March 6, 2013
By shelley –
If you are trying to over come emotional eating, this is a set by set process to break the mental challenges that come with emotional eating. Journaling my emotions with my food journal really helps show my areas of weakness. Very helpful book.
Practical, Heartfelt Help for Food Addiction February 15, 2013
Meryl's first and very fine book is an easy and welcome read for anyone who has tried and tried and tried and tried to lose weight on her own. Anyone who never found peace with himself (because he kept trying to eat like a ‘normie' and kept failing) will love this book. Most compulsive overeaters and food addicts have read all the weight-loss books and sat in the diet clubs; we have kept calorie-counters and scales and measuring cups and even clothes three sizes too small for years and years, hoping, until we give up and give them to Goodwill. What Meryl offers to the person who overeats to soothe pain, numb sadness, or stuff fury is a process that takes into account the emotional eater's way of thinking as well as his or her way of eating. It is a deeply honest book which will have you in tears at the end, not because of dishonest sentimentality but because what happened in Meryl's life tore her, and yet she did not perish from the pain. Meryl lives her talk, and anyone who has worked with her knows the power she can wield to help others. The reader is invited to get honest and do quite a bit of writing. There is a big 12-Step influence in the book. But the tools and energy techniques Meryl lays out will un-stick you if you're stuck in that rut. I have never read a book that had so many aids to recovery as this one. What Meryl writes is from the heart and for the heart. The aching heart is what needs to be reclaimed and restored – and she teaches us how to do it.
great! February 1, 2013
By smylee (PA) –
I love the book, would recommend it to anyone. I haven't finished it – I'm following the plan as prescribed.
GREAT Book and very helpful. January 29, 2013
By Dennis –
Wow! What a surprise to read the review from H.L. First of all, the author is not Christian, she is Jewish. Secondly, it is not at all religious, but has an emphasis on spirituality. Thirdly, only the first chapter talks about eating history. There is a whole chapter on energy techniques, which certainly isn't the usual ‘repeated routines.' I am wondering if the reviewer actually read the book or alternatively, had a preconceived idea v. an open mind. I found it to be very helpful! I didn't even realize that I had food issues until I read Meryl's book. Now along with my weight training and crossfit, it has helped me to get into the best shape of my life. Thank you Meryl.
Christians will more prefer this book January 27, 2013
Try Anita Johnston Ph.D.'s “Eating in the Light of the Moon”. “Stop Eating Your Heart Out” has only the repeated routines telling you to write about your eating and emotional history especially from the perspective of a specific religion.
Meryl Beck has lived what she writes about in this book. She has struggled with emotional eating and weight issues her entire life. She's tried diet plans, therapies, religious philosophies, recovery programs, behavior modification practices – none of these in itself has worked. STOP EATING YOUR HEART OUT is a simple guide to the best of all of these practices. What she has to say here works! I know because I have been a part of Meryl's life for many years now watching her grow and learning from her as well. She has helped me to make peace with my own issues and I have used and continue to use much of what she talks about in this book. I hope you will get a copy of this book – may your journey be successful and filled with peace!
Wonderful. Has opened my eyes to what I need to face, recognize and accept. Great actions sections. I recommend it whole heartedly. Worth every penny. Easy read, simple directions. Go for it, think you'll love it as much as I. What do you have to lose?
A Superb Book – Smart, Practical, Accessible, Effective July 24, 2012
Meryl Hershey Beck has written a terrific book, ingeniously combining the hard won wisdom of the 12 steps and addictions treatment with the fast-acting methods of energy psychology (meridian tapping or acupoint pressing), plus a lot of practical, compassionate therapeutic smarts of her own.
Then – frosting on the cake – she models healing in the best way possible – with her own open, straightforward self-disclosure and by offering her history as teaching story.
It's also important to note that the exercises in this book are very, very good; and this girl can WRITE! A very, very worthwhile purchase, people!!
~ Belleruth Naparstek, Psychotherapist, author and guided imagery pioneer
A Must Have Book June 8, 2012
Meryl Beck has written a truly useful book and it's not only for over eating issues, but for all kinds of compulsive eating disorders. I have my own as most of us do, and I learned a lot about adjusting and healing those issues by reading this book and practicing the tools that Meryl's eclectic background has produced. This book is a fabulous compendium of tools for all occasions and every kind of emotional pull from minor stress to major life altering situations. And just when I thought this author couldn't be more honest, she takes the reader to such unexpected places that one can't help but be truly inspired by her journey. I highly recommend this book for every blessed word within it. Nancy B.
This book is state of the art May 28, 2012
Not only does this book give me hope, but it nourishes my intelligence and soul. Love the author's unabashed honesty about her foibles and the shame she suffered about her weight. Love, Love how comprehensive the program is, combining all kinds of methods so I can find resolution and relief for my struggle. And I Love, Love, Love finding out about – and USING – techniques that most people don't even know about yet. These techniques are easy to learn and have really made a difference in my world. This book is state of the art.
I wish I had this book years ago, when I was still struggling with compulsive eating. Like many overeaters, I was fixated on diets, which only makes the problem worse.
Stop Eating Your Heart Out sheds much needed light on why we are driven to pizza or ice cream or a binge when we really aren't even hungry. This book weaves the author's story of healing from her own compulsive eating with step-by-step guidelines for assuaging the emotional and spiritual pain that drives us to food as drug or diversion.
Each chapter explores issues that can drive unhealthy behavior around food and then provides tools for relief from the emotions and patterns that keep us from satiety. Meryl discusses the importance of knowing your eating history, cultivating a support system and learning forgiveness and gratitude. She gives a list of practical alternatives to eating, meditations and visualization techniques.
Meryl discusses her evolving relationship with spirit and how this helped in her struggle. Rather than leave this on an esoteric level, she gives tools for connecting with a higher power (even if you don't believe in God), including time in nature, use of breath, prayer and meditations.
I was particularly impressed with the chapter on energy psychology or energy medicine. Here she explains this powerful but little understood tool for healing. She lists various energy therapies and then provides a step-by-step guide to using EFT, one of the more popular techniques for releasing uncomfortable feelings. From there she guides the reader through an energy therapy process she developed herself. RITT is the author's own process for clearing urges for tempting foods (think chips or chocolate) along with triggering emotions.
I highly recommend this book to anyone struggling with overeating, cravings or difficult emotions. It is filled with practical steps that can be put to use immediately. I found this book to be much more than a guide end to overeating. It offers tools we can all use to feel more balance in our lives.
Do you identify with any of these statements?
I am preoccupied with food, eating, and weight.
I am aware that my eating patterns are not normal.
I eat when I am not physically hungry.
I eat very little in pubic and binge in private.
I eat to comfort myself and relieve distressing feelings.
I tend to eat more when I am stressed, anxious, or depressed.
Food has become my friend, my lover, or my drug of choice.
I feel ashamed of myself due to the quantity of food I consume.
I feel powerless over my eating behavior.
(The complete list of statements can be found on pp. 16-17 of Meryl's book.)If so, then you may very well be an emotional eater.Although that reality may be hard to accept, the hope that Meryl's book offers is undeniable. As she states:
“The goal of this book is for you to have freedom from emotional eating. This means that your relationship with food will change; it will no longer be your best friend or your worst enemy–food will just be food, used for pleasure, at times, and for nourishment. Being freed from emotional eating also means you are able to feel your feelings and deal with them rather than numbing yourself with food…And the more you come to love, accept, and appreciate yourself, the more food will just be food–rather than your drug of choice.” (pp. 76, 160)And, she delivers on this hope with a 21-day plan to help you break free from the trap of emotional eating. As a recovered emotional eater, she's made it though this process herself, and as a therapist and author, she now shares this program with others. You'll have to get your hands on your own copy of this book (I highly recommend it!), but until then, here's a quick sampling of what the 21-day plan involves:***Becoming Self-Honest***
Day 1: Eating History–Taking an honest self-inventory to determine how you have used food in the past.
Day 2: Food-Mood Diary–Exploring the connection between food and feelings by tracking emotions and triggers associated with every bite you take.
Day 3: Personal Journal–Using writing as a tool to identify, process, explore, and release feelings as well as gain increased awareness and insight into your eating behaviors, thoughts, beliefs, and habits.***Finding Support***
Day 4: Creating a Support System–Developing a support system (of friends, family members, support groups) to help sustain you through the process.
Day 5: Self-Care–Identifying and implementing ways to nurture yourself–and put your own oxygen mask on before helping others!
Day 6: Therapy–Exploring therapy options for additional support in your growth and healing process.***Spirituality and Spiritual Growth***
Day 7: Higher Power–Connecting with a source outside yourself (be it God, nature, a spiritual connection, a Higher Power, or any other source of connection that feels right to you).
Day 8: Prayer and Mediation–Decreasing the need for food compulsions by filling yourself up with prayer and/or meditation practices.
Day 9: Creative Visualization–Manifesting your dreams and goals with specific techniques to envision freedom from emotional eating and a newfound ability to eat for pleasure and nutrition.***Energy Techniques***
Day 10: An Introduction to TFT and EFT–Dealing directly with cravings and emotional discomfort by tapping on acupressure points to help release feelings, stress, anxiety, and trauma.
Day 11: Rapidly Integrated Transformation Technique (RITT)–Integrating energy techniques with a spiritual component to decrease the intensity of overwhelming emotions.
Day 12: Personal Energy Work–Monitoring how your energy levels rise and fall throughout the day in response to particular people, situations, activities, and foods.***Going Within***
Day 13: The Inner Child–Breaking free from the shackles of your past by developing the Healthy Adult part of yourself to work with your Inner Child.
Day 14: Right-Hand/Left-Hand Dialogue–Accessing the subconscious feelings and needs that have led to emotional eating.
Day 15: Parts Work–Embracing the Inner Critic–Using self-compassion and parts work techniques (ex: Chair Work, Two Hands Talking, and Right-Hand/Left-Hand Dialogue) to create a dialogue between your Inner Critic and Healthy Adult to better understand and address your unmet needs and desires.***Personal Housekeeping***
Day 16: Mini Inventory–Increasing your self-awareness and accountability by taking an inventory of your shame-based past experiences, character traits, and personality vulnerabilities.
Day 17: Giving It Away–Sharing the results of your inventory work with someone else to help release the associated shame and guilt, and ultimately find compassion and empathy for your past actions.
Day 18: Making Amends–Taking responsibility by acknowledging the hurt you may have caused others, making amends, and adjusting your future actions.***Conscious Living***
Day 19: Forgiveness–Letting go of toxic resentments and grudges by forgiving yourself and others.
Day 20: Gratitude–Shifting your attitude from noticing what is wrong to appreciating what is right. (As Meryl notes: “When we are feeling grateful, we aren't reaching for that first compulsive bite.” p. 178 )
Day 21:Healthy Eating–Becoming more mindful of your eating practices, habits, and triggers and learning how to feed your your body what it actually wants and needs.If you're ready to stop eating your heart out, then open it up to this book. You may very well find yourself–that is, your *true* self–on the journey towards a truly satisfying and nourishing life.
I really would give this book 4.5 stars. The only reason is that some of it is based on OA/AA. I don't think that's bad in any way but some of the techniques is just not for me. But, that being said, overall I really liked this book and like the techniques she outlines to do to get over emotional eating. There is a good bit I can use in this book. Some I already heard before but there is plenty that just makes sense to overcoming your emotional/overeating addiction.
There are things in the book about dealing with past issues, the present, keeping journals, food mood diary (which makes alot of sense to me), and I love guided imagine methods. I wish I could find some good tapes on them though. Any suggestions let me know.
I never heard of the left/right hand method but it's interesting for sure. If you want more explanation you will have to read the book. I don't want to give it away.
Love the section in the back of references and the author put a recommended reading section in the back to read further about eating disorders, weight control, etc.
I will read more from this author for sure.
Stop Eating Your Heart Out: The 21 Day Program to Free Yourself From Emotional Eating gives readers tools and tips to work on triggers and issues that surround their eating habits. I believe it's meant to be done by doing one exercise a day, one day at a time, but since I was reading this for review I didn't have that time to take. I did however do some of the exercises as I went along. They are simple, but some of them can be emotionally charged, so you may want to make sure your prepared for that.
There are lots of different tips and techniques to try. Some of the most interesting to me personally are the ones involving energy techniques. I think that these could not only be helpful for overeating but in other areas of my life as well.
Now, I do have to admit that at the first mention of a higher power/spirituality, I became a bit skittish. I'm not a religious person and don't like to be preached to. I know that religion and spirituality are different concepts but sometimes people can blend the two and the line becomes blurred. Beck was very open about her discussion of spirituality and higher power in terms of self work and what that means in regards to overeating. She made some important distinctions which I greatly appreciated. She stated that spirituality unifies and religion separates, and that spirituality lies beyond religion.
I took this to mean that religion has a set of rules that you must follow or be left out of the group, and spirituality is more free form. You can be spiritual in whatever way makes you feel comfortable. You don't have a set of rules that you have to follow or anyone dictating what you need to do.
Interestingly, this book also references another book that I read a little over a year ago called Zero Limits by Joe Vitale. The concept of self work is the same, but there are less varied techniques. (I think that's one reason I was less happy with that book because I felt that it just kept repeating the same things over and over.)
The book often references the Twelve Step Program, similar to AA but alcohol is replaced with food. It's not completely the same, but it has a foundation using that. This book is more individualized though. You get all the tools to use but you don't necessarily have to do them any certain way and you don't have to use them all if you don't want to.
This is an excellent resource for someone struggling with overeating or other food issues. It also has a list of other valuable resources that you can refer to if needed. In addition to helping people resolve their issues with food I think this could be used more generally to increase positivity in your every day life as well.
Clear, Focused, Encouraging, Effective April 5, 2012
By Andra S. Ewton
I loved being able to “preview” this valuable offering while working on the copyediting and feel like I was healed in the process. Whether your relationship with food is an issue or not, there is much to be gained from reading and participating in the encouraging and effective program set forth in Meryl's book. What a real treat!
Incredible Insights April 5, 2012
I started reading Meryl Beck's book Stop Eating Your Heart Out on a flight from New England to South Florida, Being on a plane we have our little space which isolates us and as I turned the pages, there was no place for me to go but within.
The first chapter was so deep, profound and touching that it became the crack in the cosmic egg for me to explore my own young life of past.
I felt very much like Alice going down the rabbit hole as I began to read.
It was an amazing journey touching the very depth of my soul.
Meryl Beck allows her world to become yours and her reflections for us to recall our own. My young world flashed past me page after page and Meryl gave me the courage and permission to look at my young years through my adult eyes. It was incredible realization. I just finished chapter one when the plane landed.
Meryl is brave and compassionate showing us that the light at the end of the tunnel is about choosing what is in our highest good and go for it.
Thank you Meryl….now on to chapter two. Suzanne Aubrey
A blueprint for healing March 25, 2012
In person, Meryl bubbles over with love and light. Her book is an open accounting of her struggle with food addiction and a clear blueprint for how she has arrived at a place of health and peace. She gives hope to anyone with challenges (and who doesn't have those?) that not only can one overcome one's demons, but that life can be experienced with enthusiasm and joy.
Hope and Healing for Food Addiction March 23, 2012
By Morgan Tyler Leigh
“Stop Eating Your Heart Out” is an invaluable resource for anyone who desires freedom from emotional eating. Meryl Hershey Beck candidly reveals the agonizing reality of food addiction with honest and insightful disclosures of her own journey along the road to recovery. Her authentic and straight-forward account of life-long struggles with emotional eating poignantly unveils the excruciating pain, self-loathing, and social isolation that plagues the daily lives of compulsive over-eaters and their never-ending quest for emotional numbness. However, that same forthright honesty which was so crucial to her own successful recovery also invites her readers to find the courage to come out of the closet and release the shackles of shame and guilt that bind them to their lives of misery. Now everyone who is struggling with a food addiction can find hope and healing with this helpful 21-step guide that combines traditional recovery approaches with innovative energetic techniques. Meryl's valuable contribution provides indispensible tools that are surprisingly simple, yet amazingly effective and transformative.
Absolute must have March 11, 2012
What an inspiring read, extremely helpful and totally relateable book.I found it to be amazingly encouraging,with my contuining struggle with emotional eating.I found it to be practical and life changing,thank you for writing a book that has really put my eating problem into perspective.And helped me to let go of those emotional obstacles, that have essentially held me back.I would really recommend this book to anyone,who suffers with this secretive obsession with food.With sincere thanks, Carey E. Ruziska
Meryl Changed My Life March 11, 2012
“Stop Eating Your Heart” out is one of those ‘keep near you' books if you really want to work on your eating habits. I am one of those lucky people who got to know Meryl personally through her workshop that was life changing for me. When Meryl laughs your soul wakes up, when Meryl cries your heart opens, but when Meryl shares her stories you feel understood and not alone. She is so non-judgemental and because of that I was able to acknowledge my own hidden battles with eating disorders. Thus began my journey of healing and self-discovery. Thank you Meryl for giving me permission to reveal and heal instead of cover and fester those feelings of shame that often lay under eating issues.
Gives Me Hope and Encouragement March 6, 2012
I write this review not as some expert on nutrition/dieting/eating dis orders etc but just as an average person , someone who has always had weight issues since the age of 18From reading the first few pages of Meryls book it awoke me to the realisation that I was not alone and it was so interesting to read Meryls account of when she was young and the weight issues experienced the the 50s . Being a man its always ok to be over weight, have a beer belly etc but its not, I hate it and have struggled with demons throughout my life re my weight , every day I dislike myself due to my weightMeryls book for me was such an insight into all the many issues involved with over eating ,some of which I was unaware of but I can now identify with so many of the issues raised within the book pages , Meryl gives sensible good advice on how the eating problems can be helped , and the advice is given with compassionThe book is written sensibly and is easy to read , I could hardly put the book down , I devoured each page eagerly ( like my food :>( ) but it has given me a whole new insight into my eating and why I eat and when I eat . I have made a promise to myself to take each day at a time and keep positive and take the advice laid out in the book and keep reading the book over and over for inspiration/hopeMany thanks Meryl for writing this book, for me it has opened a new window in my life and given me hope on how to deal with my my over eating disorder , and to be a better personI would without a doubt reccommend this book to any person, male or femail who has experienced eating dis orders , it gives people hopeRegards, David
Mrs. Meryl definately has a way of speaking right to the Heart of the problem. I really enjoyed this book and learned more that Emotional Eating does affect alot of people who do not talk about it. I HIGHLY recommend this book for anyone who does have this problem or those who want to find out more about it. Great job Meryl Beck!
This was such a great non-fiction read. Everyone should read this book. At one point or another we all find ourselves using “food” as the cure. Thanks so much Meryl for writing this book and putting so much of your own personal journey into it. There was so much information to absorb that I will be taking time in the near future to re-read your book.Again, thanks so much for sharing your journey.
Stacy‘s review April 8, 2012
Stop Eating Your Heart Out is a fantastic book and I wish it was around 20 years ago! Ms. Beck's book is full of useful resources and exercises for those addicted to food and emotional eating. The book includes accounts of others suffering from emotional eating and the author's personal journey, but I greatly appreciated the balance of that information with the daily exercises. Sometimes self-help books focus so much on stories about the author's clients and offer little concrete, straight forward action items; this book is different. Ms. Beck's book focuses on practical tools needed to move beyond emotional eating. I feel this book is for anyone starting on their recovery or for those who are already on their journey of recovery. I read through the book to complete a review and look forward to returning to it so I can go through the exercises one day at a time. Thank you for writing this book, Ms. Beck!
Windy‘s review March 15, 2012
While this book obviously addresses emotional eating, and the author herself has spent decades using and teaching the techniques described within, I feel that her tools are far more wide-reaching. Meryl Hershey Beck's compassion comes through the pages and makes this a very engaging read. I would imagine that a reader in the midst of struggles with emotional overeating would find this book very refreshing and a huge help to overcoming their disorder.
I just started reading this book. It is a book that helps people deal with emotional eating and has a clear 21 day plan to equip people with the tools necessary to break destructive eating patterns. I'm very excited to work with the tools so that I can better address and stop my emotional eating. I will be writing a full review when I've worked through the book. I may be updating this review as I read. Stay tuned.As of today, March 23, 2012, I've read through the introduction and first eight days worth of the program outlined in the book. I'm an impatient reader. So, my original goal was to read the book once through quickly, then implement the tools, but I find myself wanting to implement as I go along, at least for the things that can be done easily as I read.The introduction gives some background and explains how to use the book. In Chapter 1, the author shares her personal journey through unhealthy compulsive eating patterns to healthier ones. In the second chapter, entitled “Becoming Self-Honest”, the reader can assess his or eating behavior and the first exercise is writing an eating history. I found this to be a revealing exercise. Also, day 2's tool, a food mood dairy helps us to look at what motivates us to eat – is it loneliness, anger, etc. The author also encourages the keeping of a personal journal, which I did start. It felt good to get things out on paper.Chapter 3 deals with finding support and checking a twelve step group, or finding other means of support. Self-care is also covered. The author has some great suggestions on things you can do to give yourself the right kind of attention, and positive ways at look at tasks in our lives. The author also encourages the reader to seek the benefits of therapy if necessary.Day 7's assignment was really powerful for me. I completed it this morning. I wrote a letter to God. It had quite an impact. The author encourages all of us to get in touch with our spiritual side through contact with what she calls a “Higher Power”. For some, this might be God, nature, Jesus, or Buddha, etc. Day 8 takes this further and encourages prayer and meditation. I already do these two things, and I can attest to the difference they make in a person's life. Again the author has some great ideas and explanations on how to do these things in your life.O.k. I'm back with more to say. I've now read through Day 12 and have worked through some of the energy techniques in Chapter 5. I really like them, They've been very soothing. I haven't eaten because of stress or emotions since I've started the book. I think this is just the push in the right direction that I needed.As of today (March 29) I've read through Day 16. In Chapter 6, “going within” was covered. Exercises to help a person get in touch with their “Inner Child” and “Inner Critic” were included in this section. I found some of these exercises awkward for me. I've never done something like them before. However, they did help to uncover some of the things in my life that may make me reach for food as a comfort source. The chapter I'm on now has to do with “personal housecleaning”.More to come as I work through it…