For a long time we as a society, didn't talk about sex. It seems that it is the last frontier to finally come out of the closet, so to speak.
Sometimes I think sex is wasted on the young. The hormones are raging and then … wham, bam, thank you ma’am!
What about the possibility of Multi-Dimensional Sexuality?
As we become more evolved and mindful, some of us have been introduced to a different view of sex. Even our language around sex will change and we will begin using words such as “sacred” and “conscious” and “magical” when thinking about sex.
Instead of being purely a physical process, sexuality can be multi-dimensional. In its highest form, it will include not just the physical and emotional, but also the energetic and spiritual components.
Wherever two lovers are, there is God. Wherever two lovers’ energies are meeting and mingling, there is life, alive, at its best; God surrounds you. Churches are empty; love-chambers are full of God. ~Osho
Sacred sexuality brings God (Source, Higher Power, whatever word you want to use) into the bedroom and the result can be touch ecstasy. Instead of being the (typically) profane act of our adolescence, sacred sexuality becomes a holy act moving you into spiritual realms where you can touch God. Used in this way, sexuality can be seen as a doorway to the evolution of your soul.
The Energy of Sexuality
For many years, my colleague Robin Trainor Masci and I taught “The Mystery and Magic of Sexual Energy” and I discussed it a bit in a previous article you can read here. The traditional view (John Gray and others) is that men are more into quickies and women take a long time to be aroused. We disagree, however, based on our own and clients’ experiences: men and women can both be easily aroused if the life-force energy is high.
Sexual energy is just life-force energy concentrated in the sexual centers of the body (first and second chakras, the pelvic region). High levels of energy are magnetic and attractive, and people are much more attracted to strong life-force energy than external physical features.
One day Robin and I were with a friend whom I will call Blanche. At that time she was in her 50s, carried extra padding on her body, and wasn’t what anyone would call a physical beauty. Blanche’s energy was high, however, and because of that, she was radiant. The energy seemed to just ooze out of her and she glowed. As we walked through a restaurant to our table, every single person’s head turned as she walked by! Robin and I gasped as we watched…and it wasn’t just the men, the women all gazed at her too. High energy is very attractive and magnetic.
Energy and Orgasm
Did you know that men lose energy through ejaculation and that it is entirely possible to have an orgasm without ejaculation? Did you know that women lose energy through menstruation and can actually build their energy through orgasm?
Although these concepts are often not discussed in the mainstream literature, there is a growing awareness and understanding about conscious sexuality.
Tantra is a word used to discuss sexual energy, though it means a whole lot more. The authors that I am familiar with include David Deida, Margot Anand, Bodhi Avinasha, Charles Muir and Mantak Chia. There are lots more, for sure! They all discuss the energetic component of sexuality, and how to build and store energy through sex.
Something for you to try. You can choose to make better use of your energy and not waste it the next time you are sexual: Decide ahead of time where you’d like to send your energy. It can be personal – such as sending it to a body part that is in pain. It can be global – such as sending it to starving people in the world. Or somewhere in between. Then, at the point of orgasm, imagine that your energy is being sent there. Energy follows intent and, it is said, “energy flows where attention goes.”
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Love and Blessings,